Understanding the impact of maladaptive schemas on the dynamics of friends with benefits relationships

Abstract

When analyzing the process of development, it is crucial to include the dimension of sexual development. Friends with benefits (FWB) are characterized by differing frequencies and intensities of both non-genital and genital behaviors. FWB are defined as friendships that incorporate a sexual element without the commitment (Lehmiller et al., 2011). Maladaptive schemas are deep-rooted patterns formed in early childhood that influence an individual's selfperception and interactions (Young et al. 2003). This research aims to determine whether schemas predict engagement in FWB, and and how this relationship varies across genders. A convenient sample of 514 respondents (40 males) was utilized. Age ranged from 17 to 25 (M = 22.01, SD = 2.06). Respondents reported sexual orientation, (88.9% heterosexual). Data were collected on experience/current status in FWB. The Young Schema Questionnaire - Short Form (α = .53 to .98) (Slepecky et al., 2019) assessed schemas, comprising 90 items across 18 schemas and 5 domains. Results indicate that 4.3% of respondents have never had sexual intercourse. The age of first sexual intercourse ranges from 13 to 26. 20.2% have been in an FWB in the past 12 months or are currently in one, and 41.1% have experienced an FWB at least once. The T-test comparing men and women reveals significant differences in two schemas: insufficient self-control (t (512) = -2.29, p = .02) and approval-seeking (t (54.28) = 3.28, p = .002). In both cases, women scored higher. The T-test on sexual orientation indicate that significant differences emerged in half of the schemas, across four out of five domains, and in the overall score, so further analyses were conducted on the heterosexuals. A binary logistic regression examined the relationship between involvement in an FWB and schemas. Only the Mistrust/Abuse schema was significant (χ2(1) = 8.27, N = 512, p = .004). The odds ratio (Exp(B)) was 1.090, indicating that higher scores on the schema are significantly associated with an increased likelihood of being involved in an FWB. These findings suggest that schemas related to mistrust play a crucial role in shaping the dynamics of FWB. Psychologists might consider challenging these schemas to promote healthier relationship patterns and incorporating schema-focused interventions into relationship education programs to help individuals better understand and manage their expectations and behaviors in relationships