to flourish, one must master the delicate balance of authority— defined by the author as “the capacity for meaningful action,” (loc 35)— and vulnerability, or, “exposure to meaningful risk” (loc 40). If that balance of authority becomes out of balance, we fall into the pitfalls of “exploiting” (authority without vulnerability), or “suffering” (vulnerability without authority), or worst of all, “withdrawing” (an absence of both)