Love and the Anatomy of Needing Another
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Abstract
The idea that we need our beloveds has a rich and longstanding history in classic
literature, pop culture, social sciences, and of course, philosophical treatments of love. Yet on
little reflection, the idea that one needs one’s beloved is as puzzling as it is familiar. In what, if
any sense, do we really need our beloveds? And insofar as we do need them, is this feature of
love something to be celebrated or lamented? In the relevant philosophical literature, there are
various ways of understanding the type(s) of psychological need internal to love and whether and
how the necessity in question contributes to love’s value. In this chapter, I survey and critically
analyze several accounts of felt necessity in love and advocate for a philosophically neglected
perspective on the nature and value of needing our beloveds