This study sought to explicitly investigate manifestations off ema/,e narcissism and their attempts at self-regulation in the context of intimate partner violence (IPV). This navel phenomenon was explored through the lens of ex-partners' perceptions of female narcissists. A qualitative approach using individual interviews was adopted to gain an in-depth insight of the subtleties and nuances of gender differences in narcissistic personality. Semi-structured interviews were carried out with ten male participants who repurted having experienced an abusive relationship with a female narcissist. These interviews were transcribed and analysed using thematic analysis. Three overarching themes emerged from the data analysis: (i) dualistic personas of narcissism; (ii) the mask of femininity; and (iii) the hidden paradox of gender roles. Findings illustrated that perceived expressions of female narcissists depicted presentations of narcissistic vulnerability. Analysis also demonstrated that gender-related norms further shaped motives and self-regulatury strategies for females to obtain positions of power and control. These were established through adopting a 'victim status', playing the 'mother card' and using legal and societal benefits to their advantage. Female narcissists were perceived to employ strategic attempts at self-construction in sinister and abusive ways, governed by what society allows them to express. It is concluded that narcissism describes a phenomenon in females that move beyond the overt grandiose stereotype. Limitations and suggestions for future re.search are discussed
