We develop techniques for determining the exact asymptotic speed of convergence in the multidimensional normal approximation of smooth functions of Gaussian fields. As a by-product, our findings yield exact limits and often give rise to one-term generalized Edgeworth expansions increasing the speed of convergence. Our main mathematical tools are Malliavin calculus, Stein's method and the Fourth Moment Theorem. This work can be seen as an extension of the results of arXiv:0803.0458 to the multi-dimensional case, with the notable difference that in our framework covariances are allowed to fluctuate. We apply our findings to exploding functionals of Brownian sheets, vectors of Toeplitz quadratic functionals and the Breuer-Major Theorem
