Factors of negative influence of family upbringing

Abstract

Obitelj kao odgojna sredina, najvažnija je zajednica za razvoj djeteta, stoga, svako dijete ima pravo živjeti sa svojim roditeljima koji o njemu brinu, do god je to u njegovom najboljem interesu. U današnje vrijeme, obitelj je suočena s mnogim svakodnevnim pritiscima i problemima. Mnogi roditelji se zbog toga osjećaju nekompetentno i nemoćno u svojoj roditeljskoj ulozi. Tome pridonose svakodnevni financijski problemi, stresni profesionalni životni ritam, te bolesti. Odnosi između roditelja i djece uvelike utječu na cjelokupni razvoj djeteta, na razvijanje njegovih stavova, odnosa među vršnjacima, te ponašanje tijekom cijelog životnog ciklusa. Fenomen obiteljskog nasilja seže daleko u prošlost. Iako se nasilje u obitelji još uvijek prikriva i smatra obiteljskom tajnom, u današnje se vrijeme sve više ističe i govori o tome. Rizična obitelj, odnosno, obitelj koja je u riziku od nasilja, je ona koja svojim oblikom, strukturom ili unutarnjim odnosima može negativno djelovati na razvoj djeteta. Nasilje u obitelji uključuje tjelesno, emocionalno, seksualno, materijalno nasilje, te zanemarivanje i manipuliranje. Sudionici nasilja u obitelji mogu biti svi članovi obitelji. Ne postoji neko pisano pravilo koje određuje zašto netko postaje žrtva obiteljskog nasilja. Nasilje se može manifestirati od strane roditelja prema vlastitoj djeci ili obrnuto, od strane djece prema vlastitim roditeljima. Stoga je važno u takvim obiteljima osvijestiti postojanje problema i potrebe za traženjem pomoći kako bi razvili zdrave obiteljske odnose. Znanost je razvila i unaprijedila mnoge strategije koje pomažu poboljšati obiteljske odnose. Osnovana su brojna savjetovališta koja nude obiteljske terapije u svrhu promaknuća pozitivnih odnosa u obitelji i odgoju djece.Family as an educational environment is the most important community for child development, so according to that, every child has the right to live with his parents who take care of him, as long as that is in the child's best interest. Today, family is daily facing many oppressions and problems. Because of that, parents feel incompetent and helpless in their parental role. Every day financial problems, stressful professional lifestyle and diseases contribute to feeling helpless as a parent. Complete development of the child, acquirement of child's attitudes, relationships among peers, and also the behaviour of a child during the entire life cycle are highly influenced by the relationships between parents and their children. The phenomenon of family violence goes far back in the past. Although family violence is still being disguised and it is considered a family secret, it is being more emphasized and talked about it in today's time. Family at risk, i.e. family that is at risk of violence, is the family that can negatively affect child development with its form, structure, or inner relationship. Family violence includes physical, emotional, sexual and material violence, but also neglecting and manipulation. All members of the family can be participants in family violence. There is no written rule that determines why someone becomes a victim of a family violence. The violence can be manifested from parents towards their own children, and vice versa, from children towards their own parents. Because of that, it is important for families in those situations to become aware of the problem what will make asking for help an easier decision for them. Making such a decision will lead to the development of healthier family relationships. The science has developed and enhanced many strategies that are helpful in improving family relationships. Many advisory centers that offer family therapies with the main purpose of advancing family relationships and the upbringing of children have been established