Measuring a weak force is an important task for micro-mechanical systems,
both when using devices as sensitive detectors and, particularly, in
experiments of quantum mechanics. The optimal strategy for resolving a weak
stochastic signal force on a huge background (typically given by thermal noise)
is a crucial and debated topic, and the stability of the mechanical resonance
is a further, related critical issue. We introduce and analyze the parametric
control of the optical spring, that allows to stabilize the resonance and
provides a phase reference for the oscillator motion, yet conserving a free
evolution in one quadrature of the phase space. We also study quantitatively
the characteristics of our micro opto-mechanical system as detector of
stochastic force for short measurement times (for quick, high resolution
monitoring) as well as for the longer term observations that optimize the
sensitivity. We compare a simple, naive strategy based on the evaluation of the
variance of the displacement (that is a widely used technique) with an optimal
Wiener-Kolmogorov data analysis. We show that, thanks to the parametric
stabilization of the effective susceptibility, we can more efficiently
implement Wiener filtering, and we investigate how this strategy improves the
performance of our system. We finally demonstrate the possibility to resolve
stochastic force variations well below 1% of the thermal noise