This thesis details the process and analysis of the ‘Hard to Tell’ study, a qualitative, narrative study examining how male victims of female perpetrated intimate partner abuse (IPA) tell their story, and what it might mean for their identity. The study consisted of life-story interviews with 18 self-identifying male victims. Between them they described the full range of abuse, including physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, financial, controlling, coercive, and legal and administrative. The differing nature of these forms of abuse meant that some were easier to describe in narrative form, which carried significant implications for their ability to make sense of their experiences and explain it to others.
Analysis was informed by a complex and dynamic understanding of identity, including key concepts from Narrative Identity Theory (McAdams, 2018; Bamberg, 2011) and Positioning Theory (Korobov, 2010; 2015). In telling their story, these male survivors were driven to defend against powerful cultural narratives of masculinity and male perpetration that contrasted with their experience as a man and as a victim. In doing so they drew upon other cultural narratives such as mental ill-health and childhood trauma to attain a valid identity position. Cultural narratives such as those of coercive controlling abuse and narcissism, enabled them to identify their abuse and sidestep gendered assumptions of perpetration.
This thesis proposes a model of identity work within autobiographical narration that incorporates key components of the individual, audience, context, and culture. A prominent feature of these men’s stories was the role played by third parties, who enabled them to reframe their experience as an abuse narrative and begin a process of escape and recovery. This places professionals at the heart of this model, as audience and co-producer within a critical process of narrative sense making and identity validation
