We study the action of a real reductive group G on a real submanifold X of a
K"ahler manifold Z. We suppose that the action of G extends holomorphically to
an action of a complex reductive group and is Hamiltonian with respect to a
compatible maximal compact subgroup of the complex reductive group. There is a
corresponding gradient map obtained from a Cartan decomposition of G. We obtain
a Morse like function on X. Associated to its critical points are various sets
of semistable points which we study in great detail. In particular, we have
G-stable submanifolds of X which are called pre-strata. In case that the
gradient map is proper, the pre-strata form a decomposition of X and in case
that X is compact they are the strata of a Morse type stratification of X. Our
results are generalizations of results of Kirwan obtained in the case that X=Z
is compact and the group itself is complex reductive.Comment: 29 pages, minor errors corrected, referee suggestions implemente