Saturday Night and Sunday Morning

Maggie Scarf presents a paper on the research for her book Intimate Partners, a book about marrriage. The statistics show that one in two first marriages end in divorce; the prospect for remarriage is even worse. She discusses the technique of writing a genogram, a history of each partner\u27s emotional relationships, all the way back to childhood, to see the origins of how marriage partners currently interact and evolve. Another concept the author uses is projective identification, in which feelings range from empathy to putting your own feelings onto the other partner and disclaiming ownership of them. The title of this article comes from Saturday night as the symbol for the romance; Sunday morning and the days following are the bread and butter of the relationship, the day to day negotiation in marriage. This talk was presented as part of the Convocation Committee Lecture Series at Sacred Heart University on November 13, 1990