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Revealing the 'real' me, searching for the 'actual' you: Presentations of self on an internet dating site

By Monica T. Whitty


This is the author’s version of a work that was accepted for publication in Computers in Human Behavior. Changes resulting from the publishing process, such as editing, corrections, structural formatting, and other quality control mechanisms may not be reflected in this document. Changes may have been made to this work since it was submitted for publication. A definitive version was subsequently published in Computers in Human Behavior, 24(4), 2008, DOI: paper considers the presentation of self on an internet dating site. Thirty men and 30 women were interviewed about their online dating experiences. They were asked about how they constructed their profiles and how they viewed other individuals’ profiles. Which types of presentations of self led to more successful offline romantic relationships were also investigated. Additionally, gender differences were examined. In line with previous research on presentation of self online, individuals were quite strategic in their online presentations. However, important differences between initiating a relationship on an internet dating site and other spaces (online and offline) included the type of self disclosed as well as the depth of breadth of information individuals self-disclosed about themselves before any one-on-one conversations took place.Peer-reviewedPost-prin

Topics: online dating, internet dating, internet relationships, possible selves, self-presentation, identity, COMPUTER-MEDIATED COMMUNICATION, SEX-DIFFERENCES, ATTRACTION, SELECTION
Publisher: Elsevier
Year: 2007
DOI identifier: 10.1016/j.chb.2007.07.002
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