[[abstract]]The purposes of this research were to explore how female college students‘ love relationships were influenced by the experiences resulted from their family-of-origin, and how they made changes in the love relationships of their own. Six female college students were interviewed individually in this study. Hycner‘s (1985) phenomenological analysis methods were adopted in this study to analyze data collected from interviewes. The findings of this research indicates that the parents‘ marital relationships influence female college students on the development of marriage ideation, the selecting of their partners, the establishing of the sense of trust in their love relationship, the belief of never repeating the false patterns of their parents’ marriage, the unavoidable repeating patterns of their mothers‘ style of expression, the distribution of power in their love relationship, and the expectation to the interacting patterns in the love relationship and to their boyfriends. The influences from the parent-child relationship on the love relationships of female college students were exhibited on the three following dimensions.1)Their expectation to the interacting patterns in their love relationship and to their boyfriends. Those were resulted from the experiences of the fully protection and care provided by their parents, the image of a reliable and guiding father, and the enmeshed relationship between mothers and daughters; 2)It forms a blockage in the development of their love relationships, which came from the over enmeshed mother-daughter relationships, and the disturbed parent-child function caused by unresolved marital problems, and ;3) it is helpful to express the support to each other for the development of their intimate relationships. The changing process of the interviewes were categorized into three dimensions. First, the reason of their motivation to change includes spontaneous factors, which include a) the nagative feelings, b)self awareness, and c)their willingness to keep a relationship, and also their fathers, and the critical incidents in their relationships. Secondly, the resource of the stimlants to their change include 1)environmental resources, such as the faith form thier religion, the help from psychological counseling, the studying of counseling related books, and the cooperation and reminder from their boyfiriends or classmateds;2)individual resources which include self-contemplation and self-retrain, their courage and responsibility, their persistence, and the establishing of their new interacting behaviors. The last one is the results of their change, which include10the increase of the degree of their self-confidence and self-acceptance,2)the increase of their flexibility and durability, 3)a more realistic ideation of love, and a firmer love relationship, 4)the increase of their interpersonal relationships, 5)working through their experiences of their family-of-origin, and the psychological separation with their parents. According to the reluts and findings in this research, the author discussed 1) the procedural influence from the family-of-orign to female college students, 2) the profound impact of an extramarital affair, 3) the influence of an enmeshed mother-daughter relationship to the daughter‘s love relationship, 4) fathers as their reference object for daughters selecting their patterns, and 5) the meaning of changing process and so on in this study. Some suggestions were also provided at the end of this article.
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